For Friends || Learning Your Friend is Pregnant
How You Can Help
Did you find out your dear friend is expecting, and it wasn’t planned?
Your friend is probably going through many emotions, but it’s important for her to feel safe and that she is not alone! She can get through this, especially with you by her side. Here’s how you can help your friend, family member, or girlfriend know she’s not alone:
What to Do
Talk and listen to her.
Sometimes, the best thing you can do for someone is to be there for them. Ask her how she’s feeling and listen for ways you can help. Just be there.
Talk with the people who care for her.
You can offer to help her tell her parents, the child’s father, or other family members who may need to know she’s pregnant. Listen for ways you can help her think through who to tell and when!
Help her find resources for where she can go and what she can receive while pregnant.
Reassure her and let her know that she has options and that there are organizations near her who can help. You can find those on OptionLine.org and even help her make an appointment.
What Not to Do
Don’t shame her.
She is likely experiencing many thoughts and emotions, possibly already feeling guilt, embarrassment, or shame. Be a safe person for her, staying positive, encouraging, and empathetic.
Don’t pressure her.
While you might have an idea of what you would do if you were in her position, it's crucial to recognize that she's the one who ultimately needs to make the decision. She's facing a multitude of choices, and what's most important is knowing that you'll stand by her side regardless of her decision.
Don't cut her off.
It's common for women and girls facing an unplanned pregnancy to feel isolated. It's vital to reassure her that you'll be there for her, offering unwavering support and a listening ear, regardless of the circumstances.